Triggered

What is a trigger? What is your trigger? We all have them, instances where we feel this build up of energy in our chest, anger, frustration, they show up in different ways. What makes one trigger point more reactive than the other, is it compounded by multiple events that have played on the same nerve? Perhaps it could be events where you have made your stance only to have it repeatedly dismissed. Picture a boy on the school sport field being tormented by a bully, he asks the bully to stop, he might even get the teachers involved but behind the scenes the bully continues. The boy receives daily blows, each one building up more and more anger until one day he lashes out, completely out of character, but he has reached to point where the triggers are so great that he resorts to the only survival instinct he has left, violence. How do we equip ourselves and our kids to manage triggering situations and what is at the root cause? Self dismissal plays a big part as if we do not stand up for ourselves there is a part inside that remains hurt and the more hurt that part gets the larger the explosion becomes when it finally erupts. We could speak our truth and not be heard but as long as we continue to do so at each and every triggering event, at least we have made out voice heard and the part of us inside that is feeling threatened can be put to ease by each and every courageous encounter.

"Courage is the most important of virtues because, without courage, you can't practice any other virtue consistently." – Maya Angelou